you do not know what you are asking (a sermon on Mark 10:35-45)


I wonder if you can think back to when you were a child or teenager, or when your kids were children and teenagers, and something happened that you (or they) really felt was unfair. Perhaps it was an early bedtime, or the refusal to let them go out with friends to a particular party, or the demand that they eat their vegetables. “It’s not fair!” you may have shouted (or at least thought). “I can’t wait ‘til I’m all grown up and can do whatever I want! No more stupid rules!”

When the day comes that my son uses that particular argument, I feel very certain that I will not be able to keep a straight face. Yes. Just wait ‘til you’re grown up and can do whatever you want - that is, if “whatever you want” includes the never-ending cycle of cleaning, paying bills, shopping for and preparing food, and dealing with people and situations you’d rather not deal with. No more stupid rules indeed…

Or, as Jesus replies to his disciples, “You do not know what you are asking.”  

In today’s Gospel reading, James and John approach Jesus with a bold, even audacious request. Or, really, two audacious requests - first, to do for them whatever they ask of him, and second, to grant them to sit, one at his right hand and one at his left, in his glory.

This request comes despite multiple conversations about the upside-down nature of God’s kingdom, where the first are last and the last are first. It comes despite the many times Jesus has pointed out that he is moving toward Jerusalem, to the cross, to death. In the face of all kinds of signs declaring otherwise, James and John are selfishly focused on being the first to make reservations for what lies ahead. A heavenly retirement plan, if you will.

They’ve missed the point. By a mile. They most certainly do not know what they are asking.

Perhaps the problem is that they haven’t been paying attention. Or, I wonder, maybe they have been paying attention, but the radical and upended nature of the kingdom of God just seems too good to be true; too weak to really stand up to the world’s way of doing things. There’s just no way that people on the bottom will end up in places of honor, so we’ll stick with the top, if it’s all the same to you. Yes, indeed, two orders of power and glory and prestige - coming right up.

You do not know what you are asking, Jesus tells them. You want power and glory and prestige but, I assure you, this does not mean what you think it means. In the Kingdom of God, power and glory come not from trampling others to get to the top, but from lowering ourselves in service to others. Power and glory come not from honoring ourselves, but from humbling ourselves. Power and glory do not come from doing what we want, but from listening to what God is calling us to do.

If James and John need examples, they can look no further than to the life and ministry of Jesus. Jesus emptied himself to become like us - human, vulnerable, needy. Jesus was not concerned with stacking up honors for himself by pleasing the right people. Instead, he taught and preached against the established way of doing things. 

He crossed boundaries and borders, talking to women and foreigners. He healed and fed and taught and welcomed the lowly, vulnerable, sick, and despised. He did not elevate himself to avoid pain or suffering, but submitted even to death, so that the whole creation might know the depth and strength of God’s love. Indeed, the Son-of-Man came not to be served but to serve.

Domineering tyrants, trampling the weak, seeking worldly greatness - it is not so among us. We too have been called to a different way, a better way. Bound to Jesus’s death in the waters of baptism, we are also bound to his resurrection. Drawn with him through death, into life, we know what it is for the one who is great to serve the weak and lowly - because we ourselves have been served. Served with grace, and mercy, and forgiveness, when we are most undeserving. Served with love, and welcome, and openness, when we are selfish and turned in on ourselves. Served with compassion and understanding, when we make assumptions and think the worst of one another.

With boldness and audacity we approach the table asking to be forgiven and welcomed and given a share with the great, and we are - we are joined together as the body of Christ, saints of all times and places, beloved children of God who are called to serve alongside one another. Together, in one another, we catch glimpses of the coming kingdom, where everything is upside-down and glorious.

We do not know what we are asking. We do not understand God’s ways. We often look at the world around us and cannot imagine that God’s upside-down kingdom will ever be established. But God calls us anyway, lavishes us with grace, strengthens us and gives us one another. However imperfectly, we begin to live as if the kingdom is really coming, and we are blessed in our serving. Thanks be to God. Amen.

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